So, you're intrigued by the idea of multiple orgasms. Wanting to experience one after the other is completely normal as is preferring to tap out after the first one and fall into a restorative post-sex slumber. Here, experts explain why many women's bodies are practically designed to have multiple orgasms, and sexual strategies for making them way more likely the next time you feel up for round two.
Men, after all, have to deal with the frustrating refractory period—after an orgasm, their penises stay limp no matter how much they try to coax them into action. Their energy levels are depleted, anyway, and they often just want to sleep. But men actually can have multiple orgasms—as long as they separate their orgasm from the physiological experience of ejaculation.
Photo courtesy of the author. When I was an innocent pre-teen, my mom gave me a book about reproduction. Flicking through the s-style handbook with yellowing pages, I landed on the page about female orgasm.
It has come to my attention that a lot of grown-ass women out there have yet to experience an orgasm, which makes me want to jump off a cliff on to a bed of sharpened dildos. Orgasms are important, and you need to be able to make yourself come. I know it can be frustrating, but you have to keep trying because the entire world runs on orgasms. I remember masturbating like it was my homework as a young teen because I knew that eventually I'd get the hang of it, and it would put me on par with the rest of the orgasm-experiencing world.
But I never understood what the big deal was. I'd come, he'd come, we'd fall asleep. Then one night, after I'd had my typical one-shot, my boyfriend kept thrusting.
But I was always unsure. How do you know if that was it? Was that it?
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Think of this guide on clit stimulation as an extension of my other masturbation guide here. Note To Men: You guys can also perform these techniques to help give your partner more intense orgasms more often. While you can skip down the page to the techniques by clicking here, I first want to cover a few important things that will help you to get the most out of these clitoral stimulation techniques and experience eye-rolling, screaming orgasms. Side Note: I put together this in-depth assesment that will uncover just how good you are at giving oral sex and satisfying your man.
But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required.